You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. You’re just untrained.
Discover your emotional regulation style in under 3 minutes—and finally understand why you react the way you do.
What is UntriggeredAF?
UntriggeredAF is the raw, real path to emotional clarity. If you’ve ever felt like your reactions are ‘too much,’ your needs are ignored, or you're tired of constantly second-guessing yourself… this is where you start reclaiming your power.
Created by Pam Ray—solo mom, recovering perfectionist, and emotional sponge turned guide—this space helps you:
Identify your emotional default (we all have one)
Learn simple tools to respond instead of react
Feel more grounded, connected, and confident
Start Here
👉 Take the quiz to reveal your style: Floater, Fixer, Sponge, Controller, or Volcano. 👉 Get a free guide with tailored insights & tools to help you regulate your way.
👉 Optional: Deep dive with your personalized Emotional Blueprint or Soulprint.
What Are the 5 Emotional Styles?
Floater: You avoid conflict, stay neutral, and feel overwhelmed when emotions get intense.
Fixer: You jump in to solve everyone else’s problems—even when it drains you.
Sponge: You absorb others’ energy like a sponge, then wonder why you're so exhausted.
Controller: You feel safest when you’re in control. Letting go doesn’t come easy.
Volcano: You bottle everything up until it erupts—usually at the worst time.
Why It Works
Because no one taught you this. Not your parents. Not school. Not therapy. This isn’t about fixing you—it’s about understanding you.We don’t believe in one-size-fits-all. That’s why this approach meets you where you are, with:
Bite-sized insights
No shame or overcomplication
Just real tools that actually help
From Pam
“I created this after realizing how disconnected I’d become—from myself, from my body, from my voice. After an AFib episode at 47 (and a small child at home), I knew something had to shift. What started as healing for me became a system to help others do the same.”
